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Getting things done around the house when caring for two children can be difficult.
This whole Mom of two thing is…different. It is not harder than I expected but it is not easier either. When people ask me if I am going to have a third I have to fight back the words “NO” from blurting out of my mouth because you never know what God has in store.
I enjoy being organized. I can thank my mom for that.
The number of lists I have on my phone currently is: 13. Every single one of these lists serves a purpose.
But not everyone is like me.
So before I entered into this new era of motherhood I thought to myself, “How in the world am I going to get things done.”
Here is a list of simple ways to get things done while taking care of a toddler and a baby.
1. Make a List
It should not be surprising this is number one. I love lists. I’ll say it again I LOVE LISTS.
The thing about lists are they are so freeing. Once something pops into your brain, you write it down then move on.
Make a list of the things you need to get done for the day, the week or the month. Or do all three. I do.
Make a list so you won’t forget about the appointments, the birthdays or any other events.
Put things on there you know you will be able to mark off like bathing the baby or fixing the toddler lunch. That way when it’s done you can mark it off and feel like you accomplished something.
Because guess what?? You did.
Get a cute notebook or planner. Or do what I do and put EVERYTHING in your phone. I carry that thing with me everywhere so might as well.
Making a list of daily tasks along with weekly/monthly events will make you feel so much better.
But also do not get overwhelmed by the amount on your to-do list. Write it down and LET. IT. GO.
New baby schedules are so hard because they are all over the place. It does take awhile to figure out your baby and what works best for him or her.
Starting a schedule early and sticking with it will help you and your baby so much in the long run.
If you need a little help figuring out a schedule. Here is a link to last week’s post about my 4 month old’s schedule.
Figure out what works for you and STICK WITH IT. Having a schedule is good for everyone’s sanity.
3. Work Around Those Schedules
Try working in and around toddler and baby’s schedule. Easier said than done right?
I try to do a big bulk of my “chores” while the baby is asleep.
Or if she is awake I may put her in her swing or seat for a few minutes to go change out the laundry.
My toddler is usually in the same room as the baby and he is playing or watching something.
When the baby is napping, my toddler will be in his playroom doing an activity he can do independently and that will keep him busy for awhile.
These activities include play-doh, kitchen, train set and no shame but Ipad or TV.
During this time I get what I call my “BIG THINGS” done. Things like dishes, folding laundry, picking up, sweeping, etc.
4. Dinner: Plan Ahead
The truth about dinner, I hate doing it. However, I love to eat so there is a dilemma.
My husband is super helpful with dinner and he enjoys preparing meals.
But if I plan the meals ahead of time, it helps so much.
Try doing grocery shopping when someone can watch the kids. I know some of you are laughing right now.
If that isn’t possible, check a drive-up service or order groceries online. I have never used either one of these services because of the area I live in but a lot of people I know have and LOVE it.
My husband is amazing and will go to the grocery store for me. I know how did I get so lucky?
I just make a list and he goes and gets what I need. Usually after he gets off work.
I will meal prep when there is someone there to help me with the kids.
My husband is handy with a grill and grills a lot of our meats. The sides I whip up then put in containers and store in the fridge for the week.
That way when things get crazy (because they always do) I have meals ready to go.
5. Bad Days
On days where the toddler is needing some extra attention (like this week with virus and ear infection) or the baby wants to be held, I do the best I can.
Laundry may wait till my husband gets home so he can hold the baby. Or I may wear her while doing the dishes.
I try and play with both kids as much as possible and we spend as much time on the floor as we can.
What is the saying?? “Some days are diamonds others are stones.”
6. Don’t Stress and Ask for Help!!
Listen to me Mommas. It is okay to ask for help.
I think my biggest fear when asking for help is totally inconveniencing someone or getting told no (which has NEVER happened.)
And if you can’t find help, whatever it is can WAIT.
That’s so hard to hear sometimes especially for me. I just feel better when my house is clean, the dishes are washed and the laundry is done.
But that does not always happen.
Take a deep breath. Don’t yell at your toddler. Just take it one step at a time.
These moments with these babies are precious but oh so short. Soak it all in.
It’s okay to rest.
I know so many told me that in the beginning.
Taking a few minutes to yourself is healthy and beneficial to not only you but your children.
Sometimes I tell my toddler, “Honey, Mommy just needs to rest right now, okay?”
If you can’t rest with the kids at home, ASK FOR HELP.
Self care is very important. We cannot run ourselves into the ground.
Perfection is not possible. It’s just not.
Take a moment to breathe. Enjoy motherhood and enjoy this season you are in.