I was 20 years old when I got married. Wow just typing that makes it seem crazy.
My husband, Cody and I met in High School. I was 14 and he was 15.
We stayed together all throughout HS and college.
So yes we are High School Sweethearts. Cute huh?
Okay it is pretty cute.
Now 2 kids and a mortgage later we have been married for almost 6 years.
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Marriage is hard. Biblical marriage is hard. Being a Godly wife is hard.
What does the Bible say about being a Godly wife?
Let’s dive into the scriptures and see.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.Ephesians 5: 22-24
Okay let’s get real for a minute. That verse is very very unpopular in our society today.
Now let’s get real again. That verse is very hard to do.
Why is it so hard?
See we are all born sinners. We are all born with this desire to only think and care about ourselves.
What else does the Bible say?
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.Colossians 3: 12-14
Our sins were so many and God chose us (those who are saved) and forgave us of our sins.
As women we tend to hold grudges especially against our husbands.
We are to forgive and forget.
And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.Colossians 3:14
We are to love our husbands. Submit to them. We are to serve them.
Our love for God and our desires to glorify God should be greater than any feelings we have towards our husbands.
We are to love our husbands even if we don’t feel love.
You see marriage isn’t all about butterflies or feelings. Why do you think so many marriages end in divorce?
It’s because people rely to much on their own feelings and not what the Bible says.
I’m not saying having “butterfly” feelings for your husband is a bad thing. Absolutely not. I’m just saying we cannot let our feelings always dictate our actions.
We are to love, communicate, listen and respect our husbands.
We are not to gripe, sulk, disrespect or talk down to our husbands.
It means changing your thinking. Reading, studying and memorizing scriptures.
Praying daily, constantly to God to give you strength and grace to serve your husband. And that everything you do brings glory to Him.
As Godly wives we are to respond to things in a Biblical way and not let our emotions tell us how to respond.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Loves bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
I have learned that in order to make my marriage what God intended for it to be I have to put in the work.
I must make the effort. And in hopes that my efforts bring glory to God. Because ultimately that is my biggest and greatest goal.
Cover photo taken by DeeAnn Evans. Used with permission.
This book “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace is amazing and completely changed the way I view a Biblical marriage. I recommend it for any woman young or old who is married or hopes to be married some day.